Unlocking the Ultimate Pleasure: 7 Things to Do During Oral Sex
Whether you're a seasoned lover looking to spice things up or a curious beginner eager to learn, these 7 carefully curated tips will ensure you both experience pleasure beyond your wildest dreams.
Dear family members,
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I think everyone can agree that there's just something about oral sex, right? I mean, pretty much any sexual act with your partner is a good thing, but the intimacy levels and let's be honest here, the intensity of an orgasm during oral sex can't be beat.
The significance of consent cannot be overstated when it comes to engaging in sexual activities, regardless of their nature. Consent should always be the primary concern. Before delving into any sexual activity, it is essential to have open communication with your partner and seek mutual consent for giving, receiving, or both. Throughout the experience, maintain ongoing communication to ensure that both partners are comfortable and enjoying themselves. When it comes to oral sex, don't hesitate to voice your preferences clearly. Feel free to express how you like to receive oral pleasure and take the initiative to inquire about your partner's desires as well.
The only thing more satisfying than being on the receiving end of great oral sex is knowing that you did a great job performing it on your partner. To give is to receive, if you will. Every sexual partner has different taste (literally and figuratively) and when you figure out exactly what your partner likes, it can be intensely gratifying.
As a giver of oral sex, you might be trying to find a new way to turn your partner on, but you're also interested in making the act hotter for you. If you're not getting turned on by getting your partner off, it's kind of a dull act, right?
For those receiving oral sex, wanting to make it better makes even more sense. If you can turn a good orgasm into a great one, why not? Plus, it doesn't hurt that knowing the hotter you are in the moment, the more turned on your partner is.
Here are 7 tips on how to make oral sex better for you and your partner.
Practice Good Hygiene.
PSA: Embrace your natural body because you are perfect just the way you are! However, I understand that sometimes we may feel self-conscious, especially with a new partner. If you want to ease your mind and feel more at ease, practicing good hygiene can be beneficial.
While there's no need to worry excessively about your natural scent, keeping things clean helps prevent the spread of bacteria and can boost your confidence. A quick shower or using unscented wipes on your genitals can make you feel more relaxed.
Many people prefer relatively clean genitals when engaging in intimate activities, as sweat accumulation may intensify smell and taste. If you showered recently, it might not be necessary, but after a longer period, it's advisable.
Remember, everyone's comfort level varies with their partner and their activities. Embrace your natural scent; there is nothing wrong with it. Don't let anyone make you feel ashamed or different about your unique and natural body, alright?
Grind your hips against your partner’s mouth.
If you’re going down on your partner, it can really turn you on to realize that your partner is so into it, they can't help but grind their hips back at you. If you're the one receiving, it's just as good. You can help your partner out by applying a little friction of your own, making it feel even better for you. Men, please don’t bop your woman’s head down when she is down there, I realize she may not be going at the speed you want but there are other ways to communicate that rather than choking her with your penis. For instance, you can say “faster”, “deeper”, etc.
Don't Be Afraid to Make Some Noise.
Many ladies find this a total turn-on, so guys no more quiet sex, it’s a validation that she is doing something right or wrong whatever the case may be. Even a long “mhm” works here! Not only is being vocal during sex a turn-on, but the sounds may also create small, pleasurable vibrations. These vibrations, hums, and noises can add even more to the feeling of both giving and receiving oral sex.
Also, try not to feel weird about some of the less cute noises you might make. Let your sounds emanate without inhibition. Suck, slurp, lick, don't hold back.
Make eye contact and watch your partner go down on you.
Family members, trust me when I say this move is so hot. There is something incredibly sexy about making eye contact with your partner, doesn’t matter if you're the one giving or receiving oral sex. It's such an intimate act and looking your partner directly in the eyes only increases that intimacy. This is a good way to connect to your partner even if your mouth is full (lol), and it’s a huge turn-on for your partner to look you in the eye when giving you oral.
If you've ever thought porn was arousing, just take a look down to see what your own partner is doing to you. It's like your own erotic movie, except it's actually happening.
Use Your Hands.
You should never be doing anything in bed that feels uncomfortable, but if you’re coming up against a bit of muscle fatigue, incorporate your best hand job techniques into the mix. Try using both of your hands or rubbing in different directions while, at the same time, flicking your tongue over the tip of the penis or clitoris.
While you can definitely use your hands on your partner’s genitals during oral, it can also be really pleasurable to have your fingers take a break from their junk and use your hands on other parts of their body. Use the opportunity to grab, clutch, or rub their inner thighs and hips, or even just grasp their hands.
Touch your partner’s body!
Don't forget that there's more to oral sex than just going up and down on your partner's penis or licking a clitoris. There are so many other areas to kiss, suck, and nibble, but there's also plenty of sensitive touching you can do while you're going down on your partner. (Like her breasts, for instance.)
When you're going down on your partner, they're already in a pretty intimate and compromised position, giving themselves over to you. So, take it up a notch by gripping their hips while you're down there. It feels dirty and sexy, but it also gives you the control you need to move their body so you can hit the right spots.
When receiving, touch the back of your partner’s head. Don't shove it or push it down, but simply run your fingers through your partner's hair and touch the back of their head. It's incredibly sensual for the person giving you oral sex, but it can also remind you of what's going on down there and turn you on even more.
Take your time!
Why is it such a race to finish oral sex? Why does it need to be quick? Where do you have to be? Clear your schedule and take your time giving it. As a woman, I can attest that a lot of ladies appreciate this because it's not always easy to orgasm. Instead of rushing it, really take your time going down on your partner so there's no pressure to cum and you can build up the anticipation.
If your partner has a penis, take between 15 and 30 seconds to slowly slide your mouth from base to tip. And on vulvas, the same concept applies, lick from the top to the bottom of the clitoris as slowly as possible, then gently breathe some warm air along the wet path you just created. This is a powerful and sensual technique that can heighten sensation for both parties.
Simple things like eye contact, a little touch here and there can make the experience of oral sex a lot better. All it takes is understanding your partner’s need and making them feel comfortable.
My favorite scene from one of the greatest rom coms of all time “Friends with Benefit”, was when Dylan (Justin Timberlake) and Jamie (Mila Kunis), started telling each other what they liked and disliked or what the other may find weird during sex, it was refreshing to see how it got the weirdness out during sex. So, in conclusion, communication during sex with your partner is an indispensable aspect of fostering a fulfilling and intimate connection.
Openly expressing desires, boundaries, and preferences creates a safe space for both partners to explore and enjoy each other's bodies fully. Through continuous communication, you can build trust, understanding, and mutual respect, ensuring that both individuals' needs are met, and desires are fulfilled.
Remember, discussing your feelings and being receptive to your partner's communication leads to a more satisfying and pleasurable experience, strengthening the emotional and physical bond between you. So, embrace the power of communication and let it be the guiding force that enhances your intimate moments and enriches your relationship.
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